Ritual: A religious or solemn ceremony consisting of a series of actions.
Way of Life: The typical pattern of behavior.
My husband Sonnie and I have always shared the love of a simple life. We both have a deep need to be outside most of the time. We have lived in and out of vans and duffel bags since we met 14 years ago—we even planned our wedding out of a Ford Econoline.
Before our two children were in school, we dreamt of taking them on the road with us for a year. We worked towards this, saved, created a fluid working environment, and rented out our place in order to see the dream come to life. Our dream came from some simple intentions: to be outside more, to foster a love of nature in our little ones, to bond as a family, to explore new rock climbing areas, and to learn to live with less stuff.We are over 365 days on the move now.
Instead of all the preparations I used to do—cleansing practices, hot showers, coffee, incense, long meditations, pilgrimages, even proper yoga attire—I boil it down to three simple steps.
Yes, this could happen throughout the day and become a practice within itself. Usually, however, it leads to moving my body with my breath and letting the process make me aware of myself. I have some set sequences that I can lean into if I’m feeling ungrounded or going through a transition. I'll use my community of resources on Yoga Anytime if I have Wi-Fi. If my nervous system is very relaxed, I will usually follow the guidance of how I love to practice and balance that out with playing with things that I find challenging or irritating. I’ll make a point of working with obstacles in the middle of my practice. It’s a bit of a shit sandwich situation.
I will then sit or breathe for a bit and If I'm not interrupted by children, I'll lie down and become the most relaxed version of myself and hope it sticks. If I get interrupted or cut short, I'll make a point of finishing where I left off later. It's always a good gauge to see if my practice is working when I observe my level of frustration when this happens.
"I believe in nothing, everything is sacred. I believe in everything, nothing is sacred." - Tom Robbins
I live for celebrating the ordinary, making things sacred and special, and that feeling of devotion and love carrying me home. Even more than that, I get so much out of practicing in this way with others and the sense of community that it can bring.
Here are some little rituals I sprinkle into my family life that may help you as well.
I love ritual so much that I created a life around certain ceremonies. The thing is that I put so much time into playing certain rituals out, and I can't really do that anymore. I also think that I made some things in my life too pure, and other things less-than. For example, there seemed to be a split between my yoga life and my street life. The latter never being good enough in comparison. The unfortunate downside to this was that it led me to be more judgmental of myself and others. A fortunate twist was after I had kids, I had a massive shift in carrying around expectations about anything and a simultaneous new wonder for the practical magic of simply being alive.
Why, might you ask, do I put so much effort into practice? Because getting into my actual NOW experience has a grounding effect that can last up to 24 hours and makes the events of my life flow with more ease and joy. There are also no side effects.
When ritual is freed from expectation, it’s easily woven into the fabric of life, becoming a way in which to live. When I look at the definitions of ritual and way of life, I see their interconnectedness. So in the end I guess I’ve only left to come back again with a fresh perspective.
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